Topic 9A will be Let Go of the Past. Visit the blog tomorrow to get your fieldwork and questions!
If you are reading the blog for the first time, welcome! If you are a regular visitor and you did the fieldwork from topic 8A, what did you find? Where do you spend most of your time? Do you need to work on spending more time in the present?
By living more in the present, it can open us up to a more fulfilling life. We are be able to truly experience what life has to offer. Living in the present does not mean you can't set goals and have aspirations for your future and it does not mean you can't think about the past. It means you set future goals and work on those and you appreciate what has happened to you in the past but you don't dwell on things that have already taken place.
Today, I drove to Charlotte and had plenty of time to work on being more present. So often when driving I am on autopilot and I use the time in the car to plan things, go over my to do list or to think over things I have done or could have handled better. It was a constant challenge to really focus on everything going on around me and to stay in the present moment. What I noticed the most was that each time I brought myself to the present moment, I became more relaxed. When I think about the past or the future, I tend to hang onto tension and it was great to be present and let that go. Today, I saw more clouds, billboards, cars and trees than I have in a long time!!
For everyone, what you feel may be very different. By being aware and noticing how you feel, you can begin to cater your choices to what works best for you!
Questions:
Either think about the answers or journal about your thoughts.
- How can you find your balance of planning for the future and setting goals while still living in the present?
- Where do you spend most of your time? Past, present or future?
- What do you need to do to be more present in your own life?
- How can you let go of the past and realize it is over and live more in the present moment?
- Think back to at least one time today when you were truly present.
- How did it make you feel?
- How can you spend more time in that space?
Fieldwork:
8B-Really work on being more present the rest of the week. Make a choice to leave the past behind and not to spend too much time in the future. Just be 100% present. Notice the difference between when you are present and when you are being pulled one way or the other.
Bonus Challenge:
Give up one thing that is holding you back from living in the present moment. What are you holding onto and what do you need to let go of?
Quote of the week:
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
8A- Be present!
Hi everyone,
I hope you are enjoying the blog. Topic 7 leads into the topic this week. Being present. If we are not taking things personally and are not reacting personally(topic 7), we are on our way to handling things in the present. This week we will look at how we can live more in the present moment. If we can live in the present, the past won't interfere with how we react to situations and the future will not occupy an excess amount of our time. We will find our perfect balance between the three.
By being present, we allow ourselves to just feel our most current feelings and we are not dragged down by things we should have done or things we need to do. We don't react based on past feelings or emotions and we don't spend our time thinking about things we wish we would have done or things we could have handled differently.
When I think back to the times I have enjoyed the most, whether with kids, family or friends, it is the times I am most present that stand out as the best for me. I am truly able to enjoy myself the most when I just let myself be in the moment. When I leave behind the things I should have done or the things I need to do, the present is perfect!
For me the "present" is my gift to myself. I was thinking through the times when I am most present. It is when I am cooking dinner and trying to get everything on the table at the same time or when I am writing my blog or mountain biking. These are gifts to me that help me find more of myself in my everyday life. One of my favorite activities that really keeps me in the moment is yoga. When I am in class, I am able to focus solely on what I am doing in the moment, and I can leave everything else at the door. What do you have that allows you to be truly present?
Many of the weekly topics are really hard to make a part of your life, but if you do it, it can really make a huge difference in your overall happiness. What type of life do you want?
After writing this blog, I realize I am not always as present with my kids as I want to be. This week, I am going to focus on really letting everything else go when I am with them. I am going to be more present in those moments because they are the ones that matter most and the ones I enjoy the most!
Questions:
Either think about these questions or spend some time journaling about them.
- When do you have the most fun?
- Are you in the past, present or future?
- How much time do you spend replaying things you have done?
- How much time do you spend planning for things you need to do?
- How does it feel when you are not in the present moment?
- What can you do to be more present?
- How much time do you spend in the past and future? In the present?
- Do you feel you have a good balance?
Fieldwork:
8A- Look at different situations this week and notice if you are in the past, present or future? How can these situations improve if you are more in the present?
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
I hope you are enjoying the blog. Topic 7 leads into the topic this week. Being present. If we are not taking things personally and are not reacting personally(topic 7), we are on our way to handling things in the present. This week we will look at how we can live more in the present moment. If we can live in the present, the past won't interfere with how we react to situations and the future will not occupy an excess amount of our time. We will find our perfect balance between the three.
By being present, we allow ourselves to just feel our most current feelings and we are not dragged down by things we should have done or things we need to do. We don't react based on past feelings or emotions and we don't spend our time thinking about things we wish we would have done or things we could have handled differently.
When I think back to the times I have enjoyed the most, whether with kids, family or friends, it is the times I am most present that stand out as the best for me. I am truly able to enjoy myself the most when I just let myself be in the moment. When I leave behind the things I should have done or the things I need to do, the present is perfect!
For me the "present" is my gift to myself. I was thinking through the times when I am most present. It is when I am cooking dinner and trying to get everything on the table at the same time or when I am writing my blog or mountain biking. These are gifts to me that help me find more of myself in my everyday life. One of my favorite activities that really keeps me in the moment is yoga. When I am in class, I am able to focus solely on what I am doing in the moment, and I can leave everything else at the door. What do you have that allows you to be truly present?
Many of the weekly topics are really hard to make a part of your life, but if you do it, it can really make a huge difference in your overall happiness. What type of life do you want?
After writing this blog, I realize I am not always as present with my kids as I want to be. This week, I am going to focus on really letting everything else go when I am with them. I am going to be more present in those moments because they are the ones that matter most and the ones I enjoy the most!
Questions:
Either think about these questions or spend some time journaling about them.
- When do you have the most fun?
- Are you in the past, present or future?
- How much time do you spend replaying things you have done?
- How much time do you spend planning for things you need to do?
- How does it feel when you are not in the present moment?
- What can you do to be more present?
- How much time do you spend in the past and future? In the present?
- Do you feel you have a good balance?
Fieldwork:
8A- Look at different situations this week and notice if you are in the past, present or future? How can these situations improve if you are more in the present?
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Thursday, March 17, 2011
7B- Don't take things personally.
For topic 7A we discussed how to avoid taking things personally. So, if we should not take things personally when others do them because they are handling things based on their own life, we should be able to understand that we handle things based on our own lives and we may react a certain way because of past situations. For topic 7B, let's look at how we can approach each situation for only what it is and leave any negative messaging out of our reactions. Let's not react personally either.
Can we try to remove any old feelings and only react to the issue showing up? I know this is hard, but if we can begin to just react instead of handling things based on our past, we can work through things more quickly and with less stress and energy. The messages we have heard over and over play into how we handle everything. If the messages others sent made us feel lazy, stupid or inadequate then we may react based on those old feelings. Whatever the messages are, we can control their effect on us and our actions. By letting go of the old messages and knowing what is great about us, we can change our internal messaging and how we handle things in the future.
For me, I sometimes look back at situations and wonder why I reacted a certain way. What did it bring up for me and why did it seem so much bigger than it really was? Many times, I find my reaction is truly about something else going on and may not even be about the current situation at all. I find if I have time to sit with a situation before responding and can think about what I am feeling and why, it really helps me react more accurately. What will work for you?
I know I don't give many solutions when you read the blog, but remember, coaching is about you finding your own answers. You know what you need inside of you and I want to bring up things that help you question what you are doing and why. I want you to come up with the right way to do things for you. You may be doing certain things perfectly and you may need to work on certain things more. You need to find your own truth and your own path. You need to find what fits best in your life, for you!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Questions:
- How do you react to situations that are stressful or emotional?
- Do old feelings or emotions play into those reactions?
- How can you react to just the situation at hand without bringing in past feelings or emotions?
- What messages do you hang onto that affect how you see yourself?
- Are these messages accurate?
- How can you change the messages that are not true?
- Can you be more aware of how you react so you can see what you may need to work on?
- What do you need to let go of so you can react solely based on the situation at hand?
- How would it feel to let it go?
- When will you let go?
Fieldwork:
7B- Notice how you react to situations that are a challenge. Do you feel angry, judged, inadequate or what? Why do you feel that way? Take a conscious step to react differently the next time something comes up for you or the next time someone does something that would normally make you react in a negative way.
7A- When someone does something to you, try to realize they are doing it based on their life and their situation and it may not really be about you at all. Try to understand where they are coming from and why they are doing what they are doing. Let the next situation that would normally upset you be about the other person, not you!
Topic 7 Bonus Challenge:Let something go that you have been holding onto. Realize the person you are holding it against did not do it intentionally. Let them own it. It is their issue to own, not yours!
Quote:Don Miguel Ruiz- Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally....Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.
Can we try to remove any old feelings and only react to the issue showing up? I know this is hard, but if we can begin to just react instead of handling things based on our past, we can work through things more quickly and with less stress and energy. The messages we have heard over and over play into how we handle everything. If the messages others sent made us feel lazy, stupid or inadequate then we may react based on those old feelings. Whatever the messages are, we can control their effect on us and our actions. By letting go of the old messages and knowing what is great about us, we can change our internal messaging and how we handle things in the future.
For me, I sometimes look back at situations and wonder why I reacted a certain way. What did it bring up for me and why did it seem so much bigger than it really was? Many times, I find my reaction is truly about something else going on and may not even be about the current situation at all. I find if I have time to sit with a situation before responding and can think about what I am feeling and why, it really helps me react more accurately. What will work for you?
I know I don't give many solutions when you read the blog, but remember, coaching is about you finding your own answers. You know what you need inside of you and I want to bring up things that help you question what you are doing and why. I want you to come up with the right way to do things for you. You may be doing certain things perfectly and you may need to work on certain things more. You need to find your own truth and your own path. You need to find what fits best in your life, for you!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Questions:
- How do you react to situations that are stressful or emotional?
- Do old feelings or emotions play into those reactions?
- How can you react to just the situation at hand without bringing in past feelings or emotions?
- What messages do you hang onto that affect how you see yourself?
- Are these messages accurate?
- How can you change the messages that are not true?
- Can you be more aware of how you react so you can see what you may need to work on?
- What do you need to let go of so you can react solely based on the situation at hand?
- How would it feel to let it go?
- When will you let go?
Fieldwork:
7B- Notice how you react to situations that are a challenge. Do you feel angry, judged, inadequate or what? Why do you feel that way? Take a conscious step to react differently the next time something comes up for you or the next time someone does something that would normally make you react in a negative way.
7A- When someone does something to you, try to realize they are doing it based on their life and their situation and it may not really be about you at all. Try to understand where they are coming from and why they are doing what they are doing. Let the next situation that would normally upset you be about the other person, not you!
Topic 7 Bonus Challenge:Let something go that you have been holding onto. Realize the person you are holding it against did not do it intentionally. Let them own it. It is their issue to own, not yours!
Quote:Don Miguel Ruiz- Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally....Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.
Monday, March 14, 2011
7A-Don't take it personally!
The topic this week is don't take it personally.
A while back, I read the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and one of the four agreements is not taking things personally. By adapting this thought process, it allows us to be more accepting of others and their actions and it allows us to handle situations in a more understanding way It sounds pretty simple, but to break the messages we play over and over again when something happens to us, is easier said than done.
Not long ago, I had two upsetting situations show up in my life one right after the other. Normally, I would have harped on the fact that I could not believe how these two people were treating me and it would have really taken an emotional toll on me as well. I took this lesson about not taking things personal to heart and I decided to approach both situations differently. I was able to remove my feelings from these situations and this allowed me to handle my emotions in a more effective way. Instead of feeling attacked and reacting, I was able to understand that maybe this was not really about me at all. This was something these two people were dealing with based on their own lives and insecurities and they had to own that, not me.
It was very freeing for me to be able to let it go. Most people may not even realize the effects of their actions on others and if we hold onto everything, we are the ones with extra stress and anxiety. When I first started using this approach, it was something I had to consciously think about and process. Now, it is much easier to see what someone else must be going through or what has happened in their past to make them react a certain way. This has allowed me to give others the benefit of the doubt and realize that most people really do have good intentions and they are not out to hurt others.
This week really try to see others as reacting based on their own story and not as being out to get you. Don't take it personally, let it go!!
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or think through each one:
-Do you take things personally?
-Why?
-How do you feel when someone gets upset or mad at you?
-How do you feel when someone does something to you that is upsetting?
-Do you place blame when situations like this arise?
-How can you take a step back and allow someone to deal with things based on their life and not take it personally?
-Can you give that person a break and realize the situation is more about them and their issues, not you?
Fieldwork:
When someone does something to you, try to realize they are doing it based on their life and their situation and it may not really be about you at all. Try to understand where they are coming from and why they may be doing what they are doing. Let the next situation that would normally upset you be about the other person not you!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
A while back, I read the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and one of the four agreements is not taking things personally. By adapting this thought process, it allows us to be more accepting of others and their actions and it allows us to handle situations in a more understanding way It sounds pretty simple, but to break the messages we play over and over again when something happens to us, is easier said than done.
Not long ago, I had two upsetting situations show up in my life one right after the other. Normally, I would have harped on the fact that I could not believe how these two people were treating me and it would have really taken an emotional toll on me as well. I took this lesson about not taking things personal to heart and I decided to approach both situations differently. I was able to remove my feelings from these situations and this allowed me to handle my emotions in a more effective way. Instead of feeling attacked and reacting, I was able to understand that maybe this was not really about me at all. This was something these two people were dealing with based on their own lives and insecurities and they had to own that, not me.
It was very freeing for me to be able to let it go. Most people may not even realize the effects of their actions on others and if we hold onto everything, we are the ones with extra stress and anxiety. When I first started using this approach, it was something I had to consciously think about and process. Now, it is much easier to see what someone else must be going through or what has happened in their past to make them react a certain way. This has allowed me to give others the benefit of the doubt and realize that most people really do have good intentions and they are not out to hurt others.
This week really try to see others as reacting based on their own story and not as being out to get you. Don't take it personally, let it go!!
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or think through each one:
-Do you take things personally?
-Why?
-How do you feel when someone gets upset or mad at you?
-How do you feel when someone does something to you that is upsetting?
-Do you place blame when situations like this arise?
-How can you take a step back and allow someone to deal with things based on their life and not take it personally?
-Can you give that person a break and realize the situation is more about them and their issues, not you?
Fieldwork:
When someone does something to you, try to realize they are doing it based on their life and their situation and it may not really be about you at all. Try to understand where they are coming from and why they may be doing what they are doing. Let the next situation that would normally upset you be about the other person not you!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Monday, March 7, 2011
6A/6B- Tolerations
The upcoming topic will be "Don't take things personally"! I hope you will check back this week to see more!
This week the topic is Handling Tolerations. I am going to combine the blog posts this week so there will not be an additional post about Tolerations on Thursday. The fieldwork and challenge information are all going to be posted today too, so come back and work through things at your own pace.
After the last few weeks of working really hard on ourselves, this week I want to do something a little more simple but equally as important. We are going to work on clearing up tolerations from our lives.
Tolerations are the small things we keep pushing aside and not taking care of. They end up taking much more time and energy than they deserve. If we handle things right away, how much time, space and energy would we free up?
By not handling things right away, we end up wasting more time and energy on things than we need to. For example, when the mail comes do you go through things right away or do you make a couple of stacks then go through it and move a few things to another stack then finally get to the final stack and handle things? How many times do you touch each piece of mail before taking care of it? How much time and energy have you spent thinking about it, moving it and finally taking care of it? How much time and energy would it take to touch it once and be finished with it?
This is just one example of dragging out something and allowing it to become a toleration. Tolerations are things like household chores or repairs, your to-do list, or anything you are procrastinating about. What do you have on your list that you need to take care of right now?
Questions:
6A
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about each one.
-What are you tolerating in your life?
- What does it feel like to have things in your life you know you need to take care of?
- How will it feel to take care of these tolerations?
6B
- Do you handle things immediately or wait until the last minute?
- How can you be more proactive?
- What will it feel like to take care of your tolerations before they drag you down?
- What will it feel like to not have any tolerations?
Fieldwork 6A:
List 10 things you are currently tolerating and take care of those items.
Fieldwork 6B:
When things show up in your life, start to take care of them more quickly. Don't let the list build up once you have taken care of your tolerations. Handle things one time if possible. If you did not complete your 10 items from 6A or if you list was longer, take care of those tolerations and any additional tolerations you may have.
Bonus Challenge topic 6-
Begin to notice the difference you feel when you take care of your tolerations. What does it feel like to take care of items you have been avoiding? How can you avoid having another list of tolerations in the future?
Quote: Thomas Jefferson- Never put of till tomorrow what you can do today.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
This week the topic is Handling Tolerations. I am going to combine the blog posts this week so there will not be an additional post about Tolerations on Thursday. The fieldwork and challenge information are all going to be posted today too, so come back and work through things at your own pace.
After the last few weeks of working really hard on ourselves, this week I want to do something a little more simple but equally as important. We are going to work on clearing up tolerations from our lives.
Tolerations are the small things we keep pushing aside and not taking care of. They end up taking much more time and energy than they deserve. If we handle things right away, how much time, space and energy would we free up?
By not handling things right away, we end up wasting more time and energy on things than we need to. For example, when the mail comes do you go through things right away or do you make a couple of stacks then go through it and move a few things to another stack then finally get to the final stack and handle things? How many times do you touch each piece of mail before taking care of it? How much time and energy have you spent thinking about it, moving it and finally taking care of it? How much time and energy would it take to touch it once and be finished with it?
This is just one example of dragging out something and allowing it to become a toleration. Tolerations are things like household chores or repairs, your to-do list, or anything you are procrastinating about. What do you have on your list that you need to take care of right now?
Questions:
6A
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about each one.
-What are you tolerating in your life?
- What does it feel like to have things in your life you know you need to take care of?
- How will it feel to take care of these tolerations?
6B
- Do you handle things immediately or wait until the last minute?
- How can you be more proactive?
- What will it feel like to take care of your tolerations before they drag you down?
- What will it feel like to not have any tolerations?
Fieldwork 6A:
List 10 things you are currently tolerating and take care of those items.
Fieldwork 6B:
When things show up in your life, start to take care of them more quickly. Don't let the list build up once you have taken care of your tolerations. Handle things one time if possible. If you did not complete your 10 items from 6A or if you list was longer, take care of those tolerations and any additional tolerations you may have.
Bonus Challenge topic 6-
Begin to notice the difference you feel when you take care of your tolerations. What does it feel like to take care of items you have been avoiding? How can you avoid having another list of tolerations in the future?
Quote: Thomas Jefferson- Never put of till tomorrow what you can do today.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Thursday, March 3, 2011
5B-What is your light?
The upcoming week's topic is Tolerations. What are you putting up with and what do you need to take care of? Join me Monday to read more!
Last Monday, we began to look at what our special and unique qualities are. What our special light is! Now that we have started to see that we truly offer something special , let's explore how we share that with others. As always, you can start here, or go back to any of the previous blogs and start with one of those.
For me, I knew I had found my perfect fit when I found life coaching. Even though I have to work on my life just like each of you, I know my light is sharing my coaching with others. I began the blog to share this and to work with others to create their perfect life. When I am able to guide others through my coaching, it makes me smile inside. I want everyone to have that in their life!
Your light has to be yours alone so create this for yourself. Find out what you offer others and find a way to share that even more than you already do. Take what others feel you offer and what you know about yourself and create your mission, your vision and your purpose. Find and share your light!
It is interesting because one of the things I like best about coaching is to see how others progress and change. With the blog, it is hard to see that progress. For some of you reading the blog, something you may be missing from a traditional coaching relationship is the accountability part. With a normal phone or in person coaching session, you have homework after each session. The coaching session itself consists of me asking you questions based on your goals and I hold you accountable for your weekly progress. The reason for my bi-weekly questions and fieldwork is to mimic the traditional coaching relationship as much as possible. As a coach I feel each of us has the answers inside and my job is to bring those answers to light.
Your bonus challenge this week has been created to challenge you and to provide you the accountability factor while giving me the feedback I love the most. I hope you will take the opportunity to share with me!
Bonus Challenge-
Step out of your comfort zone and email me what is special about you. Tell me what your light is and what you commit to doing to share your light with others! Share this at coachgaye@redefinebalance.com
Questions-
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about each one.
- What is your light?
- Do you share your light with others?
- How can you reach out even more and share more readily?
- What benefits would this provide you?
- What benefits would this provide others?
- How would it make you feel to share your light with the world?
Fieldwork-
How can you take what is special about you and embrace that? How can you share that with others? Do at least 2 things this week to share your light! HINT: One can be doing the bonus challenge!!
Quote: Mary Dunbar- We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Last Monday, we began to look at what our special and unique qualities are. What our special light is! Now that we have started to see that we truly offer something special , let's explore how we share that with others. As always, you can start here, or go back to any of the previous blogs and start with one of those.
For me, I knew I had found my perfect fit when I found life coaching. Even though I have to work on my life just like each of you, I know my light is sharing my coaching with others. I began the blog to share this and to work with others to create their perfect life. When I am able to guide others through my coaching, it makes me smile inside. I want everyone to have that in their life!
Your light has to be yours alone so create this for yourself. Find out what you offer others and find a way to share that even more than you already do. Take what others feel you offer and what you know about yourself and create your mission, your vision and your purpose. Find and share your light!
It is interesting because one of the things I like best about coaching is to see how others progress and change. With the blog, it is hard to see that progress. For some of you reading the blog, something you may be missing from a traditional coaching relationship is the accountability part. With a normal phone or in person coaching session, you have homework after each session. The coaching session itself consists of me asking you questions based on your goals and I hold you accountable for your weekly progress. The reason for my bi-weekly questions and fieldwork is to mimic the traditional coaching relationship as much as possible. As a coach I feel each of us has the answers inside and my job is to bring those answers to light.
Your bonus challenge this week has been created to challenge you and to provide you the accountability factor while giving me the feedback I love the most. I hope you will take the opportunity to share with me!
Bonus Challenge-
Step out of your comfort zone and email me what is special about you. Tell me what your light is and what you commit to doing to share your light with others! Share this at coachgaye@redefinebalance.com
Questions-
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about each one.
- What is your light?
- Do you share your light with others?
- How can you reach out even more and share more readily?
- What benefits would this provide you?
- What benefits would this provide others?
- How would it make you feel to share your light with the world?
Fieldwork-
How can you take what is special about you and embrace that? How can you share that with others? Do at least 2 things this week to share your light! HINT: One can be doing the bonus challenge!!
Quote: Mary Dunbar- We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Monday, February 28, 2011
5A- What is your light?
5A-What is your light? What is unique and special about you?
Last week we looked at what we admire in others and we worked on realizing there is plenty for everyone. With abundance, there is the freedom to create any life we want.
This week, I want you to look at what is great about you. What makes you special and what do you offer others? We all have unique traits that make us wonderful and much of the time, we don't even notice or realize how special each of us is. We have characteristics that are unique to us and we have skills and abilities that we bring to all of our interactions. What could be better than knowing what our special light is and being able to offer that to others? If we can each embrace what makes us special and we live our life giving that to the world, what a great world we would have.
Last year I went to the beach with some girlfriends and I got everyone to write down something special about the other women there. We all got to take home the notes about us and it was interesting because when each of us read our notes, there were such similarities in what each person wrote about us. We were given a reminder of what it is that we bring to others. Without seeing what each other wrote, it was amazing how certain qualities stood out about each of us. We all appreciated very similar things about each person. Many of us did not even know that we offered these things to others, but once we saw the messages, it was a great way to get a glimpse into our own special light.
We can begin to find our unique traits by asking others or by looking into ourselves to see what we feel we offer others. I want each of you to find your special light and find a way to share that special light with the people around you.
Questions-Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through each one.
- What is special about you?
- What would others say they admire in you?
- What do you feel you present to the world?
- What do you offer others?
- What do you bring to your relationships?
- What do you love to do?
- What makes you smile?
- How can you incorporate all of this to be even more true to yourself and your purpose?
Fieldwork-
Ask a few close friends or family members what you bring to that relationship. What are your special characteristics that make you unique and wonderful? What would they say your light is? Take this information and begin to appreciate what is so great about you!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Last week we looked at what we admire in others and we worked on realizing there is plenty for everyone. With abundance, there is the freedom to create any life we want.
This week, I want you to look at what is great about you. What makes you special and what do you offer others? We all have unique traits that make us wonderful and much of the time, we don't even notice or realize how special each of us is. We have characteristics that are unique to us and we have skills and abilities that we bring to all of our interactions. What could be better than knowing what our special light is and being able to offer that to others? If we can each embrace what makes us special and we live our life giving that to the world, what a great world we would have.
Last year I went to the beach with some girlfriends and I got everyone to write down something special about the other women there. We all got to take home the notes about us and it was interesting because when each of us read our notes, there were such similarities in what each person wrote about us. We were given a reminder of what it is that we bring to others. Without seeing what each other wrote, it was amazing how certain qualities stood out about each of us. We all appreciated very similar things about each person. Many of us did not even know that we offered these things to others, but once we saw the messages, it was a great way to get a glimpse into our own special light.
We can begin to find our unique traits by asking others or by looking into ourselves to see what we feel we offer others. I want each of you to find your special light and find a way to share that special light with the people around you.
Questions-Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through each one.
- What is special about you?
- What would others say they admire in you?
- What do you feel you present to the world?
- What do you offer others?
- What do you bring to your relationships?
- What do you love to do?
- What makes you smile?
- How can you incorporate all of this to be even more true to yourself and your purpose?
Fieldwork-
Ask a few close friends or family members what you bring to that relationship. What are your special characteristics that make you unique and wonderful? What would they say your light is? Take this information and begin to appreciate what is so great about you!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
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