Topic 24 will be What are you Waiting For. Join me Monday to read more!
In talking about living a more purpose driven life, my point is for each of you to find what makes you happy and fulfilled and to help you begin to set goals around creating a life that includes this purpose. I am not saying for you to change your job or your life right now unless that is what works best for you. I hope you take some time to find what will truly make you happy and I hope you begin to incorporate your purpose into your life at the pace that is perfect for you.
We have all seen and met people that are so happy and they have a glow about them. I want each of you to find what gives you that glow and I want each of you to share that special thing about you with the world. If we all find our purpose and come from the place where we are being true to that purpose, we create a positive environment for everyone around us. By living our own purpose driven life, our behavior becomes contagious and others will follow our lead. We not only get benefits by doing something we love, but the more we give and help others and share our true calling, the more fulfillment we get in our life. Imagine what life would be like if we all found our true calling.
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about your answers.
- What is your purpose?
- What do you have to offer others?
- What are you here for?
- Are you sharing this talent with others?
- If not, what is holding you back from living a purpose driven life?
- How can you incorporate your true purpose and calling into your life right now?
Fieldwork:
Set 2 goals that will help you begin to live a purpose driven life. What will help you follow your true calling?
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Monday, July 18, 2011
23-A Finding your Purpose
Last week when I wrote about leaving your ego behind, I mentioned using your ego in a positive way to serve others and your greater purpose. When I wrote this, I thought, that sounds great, but how many people truly know what their purpose is?
If you look inside yourself, you will find your true purpose and calling. You have to follow your passion and joy and share your true being with others. Some people may have an "aha" moment and know exactly what their calling is and what path they are destined to take in life. Others have to really question themselves and open themselves up to find their true purpose. Which category do you fall in?
I mentioned before that when I found Life Coaching, I knew I had found my perfect fit. I always knew helping others would play a part in my life and when I found Coaching, I knew I found my true purpose. I was at a point in my life when I was ready and open to find what I wanted to do for the rest of my life and I found it in Coaching, I had an "aha" moment, but it was after spending tons of time researching and exploring myself and different career options. I hope each of you are ready to explore your life and I hope each of you find your true purpose and calling.
Questions:
Either spend some time thinking through your answers or journal about each of the questions.
- Do you ever wonder why you are here and what purpose your life is supposed to serve?
- Are you open to finding your true purpose in life?
- When are you the happiest?
- Is there a way to incorporate this in a way that serves others?
- If you could be doing anything, what would it be?
- When you weren't concerned about money and bills, what did you enjoy spending your time doing?
- What is your purpose?
- How can you live your life so you are true to your purpose?
- What do you need to do to live on purpose?
Fieldwork:
Evaluate your life and define when you are happiest and what you think your true purpose is. Are you living your life sharing your true purpose? If not, what changes can you begin to make to open yourself up to finding your purpose and sharing that with others? Take at least one step towards this goal.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
If you look inside yourself, you will find your true purpose and calling. You have to follow your passion and joy and share your true being with others. Some people may have an "aha" moment and know exactly what their calling is and what path they are destined to take in life. Others have to really question themselves and open themselves up to find their true purpose. Which category do you fall in?
I mentioned before that when I found Life Coaching, I knew I had found my perfect fit. I always knew helping others would play a part in my life and when I found Coaching, I knew I found my true purpose. I was at a point in my life when I was ready and open to find what I wanted to do for the rest of my life and I found it in Coaching, I had an "aha" moment, but it was after spending tons of time researching and exploring myself and different career options. I hope each of you are ready to explore your life and I hope each of you find your true purpose and calling.
Questions:
Either spend some time thinking through your answers or journal about each of the questions.
- Do you ever wonder why you are here and what purpose your life is supposed to serve?
- Are you open to finding your true purpose in life?
- When are you the happiest?
- Is there a way to incorporate this in a way that serves others?
- If you could be doing anything, what would it be?
- When you weren't concerned about money and bills, what did you enjoy spending your time doing?
- What is your purpose?
- How can you live your life so you are true to your purpose?
- What do you need to do to live on purpose?
Fieldwork:
Evaluate your life and define when you are happiest and what you think your true purpose is. Are you living your life sharing your true purpose? If not, what changes can you begin to make to open yourself up to finding your purpose and sharing that with others? Take at least one step towards this goal.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Friday, July 15, 2011
22-B Leave your Ego Behind
This weeks post will be Finding Your Purpose. Join me Monday to read more!
Can your ego ever be beneficial? There are definitely different thoughts on this. Some think the ego is always negative and that our ego drives us to be selfish so we should avoid it at all costs. Others think we would not accomplish anything without a little pushing from our ego so we should embrace it. I fall somewhere in the middle. I think our egos can be beneficial if we are being true to our unique self and we use our ego to motivate us to accomplish goals that are positive and serve a greater purpose.
You need to decide how much you want your ego present in your life. If you let your ego take over when you react to situations and you want to react from a less egocentric perspective, then work on that. If you feel your ego can benefit and drive you to help others and the world, then work on that. Everyone will have different thoughts on this and I encourage you to evaluate what will work best for you and your life.
By being true to your self and your true purpose and calling, you can use your ego to help create the life you really want to be living. By helping others and living a life that is on purpose, you will see the benefits come back to you. Begin to define your purpose and evaluate everything you want in your life and decide how your ego will play a part in achieving your goals.
Questions:
Does your ego help you or hurt you?
How does it help or hurt you?
Are there times when your ego gets in your way?
Are there times when your ego helps you accomplish beneficial and positive goals?
Can you find a way to balance your ego so it provides benefits but does not rule you in a negative way?
Fieldwork:
Begin to find ways to use your ego in a positive way to help others while staying true to you. Open yourself up to others and you will see the benefits in your own life.
Topic 22 Bonus Challenge:
The next time someone is upset with you, begin to notice why they may be reacting the way they are. Are they reacting based on their need to protect their ego? If so, begin to understand this is what is happening and try to approach the situation in a more understanding way. See if you can help them remove their ego from the situation.
Decide the role you want your ego to play and go for it!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Can your ego ever be beneficial? There are definitely different thoughts on this. Some think the ego is always negative and that our ego drives us to be selfish so we should avoid it at all costs. Others think we would not accomplish anything without a little pushing from our ego so we should embrace it. I fall somewhere in the middle. I think our egos can be beneficial if we are being true to our unique self and we use our ego to motivate us to accomplish goals that are positive and serve a greater purpose.
You need to decide how much you want your ego present in your life. If you let your ego take over when you react to situations and you want to react from a less egocentric perspective, then work on that. If you feel your ego can benefit and drive you to help others and the world, then work on that. Everyone will have different thoughts on this and I encourage you to evaluate what will work best for you and your life.
By being true to your self and your true purpose and calling, you can use your ego to help create the life you really want to be living. By helping others and living a life that is on purpose, you will see the benefits come back to you. Begin to define your purpose and evaluate everything you want in your life and decide how your ego will play a part in achieving your goals.
Questions:
Does your ego help you or hurt you?
How does it help or hurt you?
Are there times when your ego gets in your way?
Are there times when your ego helps you accomplish beneficial and positive goals?
Can you find a way to balance your ego so it provides benefits but does not rule you in a negative way?
Fieldwork:
Begin to find ways to use your ego in a positive way to help others while staying true to you. Open yourself up to others and you will see the benefits in your own life.
Topic 22 Bonus Challenge:
The next time someone is upset with you, begin to notice why they may be reacting the way they are. Are they reacting based on their need to protect their ego? If so, begin to understand this is what is happening and try to approach the situation in a more understanding way. See if you can help them remove their ego from the situation.
Decide the role you want your ego to play and go for it!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
22-A Leave your ego behind!
Leaving your ego behind is something I have really been working on for myself lately. I hope you will enjoy working on this too. When I am able to leave my ego behind, it really helps me react more truly to a situation. When my ego shows up in my reactions, I tend to over react and my feelings get hurt and I get more upset about things than I need to. When I am able to leave my ego out of a situation, it allows me to realize things are not usually personal and it lets me remove myself a bit from the situation.
We have been conditioned to respond to things based on how our ego feels and sometimes that may not produce the best result. When we come from an ego based response instead of letting our ego go, we may react in a more negative way to things. We have to protect ourselves right?? I know it is hard to leave your ego behind, but when you do, it allows you to be more present and more true to who you are. You can remove your learned responses and defenses and really see the situations more clearly. You can realize you are not your ego and you don't have to protect yourself as much as you thought.
An example of a situation where I know my ego was involved in my responses was when my daughter was playing soccer this spring. I got caught up in wanting her to be the best and when she got off the field, I would tell her ways to improve. Once I realized my reaction was based on my ego and my reaction to what other people thought, I decided to change. I am so much more conscious of telling her the things she does well and I really try to see things through her eyes instead of my own. I am now better at seeing that my daughter is having fun when she plays and she improves each time she is out there, so really, what more can I ask for.
By shifting my focus from myself and how I was feeling to how my daughter was feeling, I was able to remove my ego from my reaction. For both of us, this made for a much better interaction. I hope you will begin to see when you are handling something based on your ego and begin to make small shifts to leave your ego behind!
Questions:
Either think about your responses or take some time to journal about the following questions.
- Does your ego control your responses?
- Do you react in a certain way to protect yourself?
- Does this work for you in a negative or positive way?
- How can you remove your ego from your responses and not take things so personally?
- How would it feel to remove your ego from your reactions?
- How can you realize your ego is not a definition of who and what you truly are?
- How can you be more true to who and what you are?
Fieldwork:
Notice your reactions to different situations. Is your ego involved in your responses? Allow yourself to take a step back and notice that your ego does not have to control you. You can respond to both positive and negative situations without allowing your ego to take over.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
We have been conditioned to respond to things based on how our ego feels and sometimes that may not produce the best result. When we come from an ego based response instead of letting our ego go, we may react in a more negative way to things. We have to protect ourselves right?? I know it is hard to leave your ego behind, but when you do, it allows you to be more present and more true to who you are. You can remove your learned responses and defenses and really see the situations more clearly. You can realize you are not your ego and you don't have to protect yourself as much as you thought.
An example of a situation where I know my ego was involved in my responses was when my daughter was playing soccer this spring. I got caught up in wanting her to be the best and when she got off the field, I would tell her ways to improve. Once I realized my reaction was based on my ego and my reaction to what other people thought, I decided to change. I am so much more conscious of telling her the things she does well and I really try to see things through her eyes instead of my own. I am now better at seeing that my daughter is having fun when she plays and she improves each time she is out there, so really, what more can I ask for.
By shifting my focus from myself and how I was feeling to how my daughter was feeling, I was able to remove my ego from my reaction. For both of us, this made for a much better interaction. I hope you will begin to see when you are handling something based on your ego and begin to make small shifts to leave your ego behind!
Questions:
Either think about your responses or take some time to journal about the following questions.
- Does your ego control your responses?
- Do you react in a certain way to protect yourself?
- Does this work for you in a negative or positive way?
- How can you remove your ego from your responses and not take things so personally?
- How would it feel to remove your ego from your reactions?
- How can you realize your ego is not a definition of who and what you truly are?
- How can you be more true to who and what you are?
Fieldwork:
Notice your reactions to different situations. Is your ego involved in your responses? Allow yourself to take a step back and notice that your ego does not have to control you. You can respond to both positive and negative situations without allowing your ego to take over.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Friday, July 1, 2011
21-B Perception
The upcoming topic will be Leave Your Ego Behind! Join me Monday to see more!
Happy 4th of July! Check back next week for a new post. I am taking this week off because my youngest child starts kindergarten next week and this is the only week both of my kids have off until our next track-out. For my perfect balance, I feel I need to spend some time with them this week. What do you need for your perfect balance this week? Enjoy your holiday!
Change how you view the world and yourself one thought at a time. Do you normally dwell on everything going wrong or do you see the things going right in your life? Shift your focus and perception and change the overall impression of your life. Shift from seeing the negative and begin to view things in a more positive light. I know sometimes this is easier said than done, but by first noticing how you view things and by then making small changes, you really can change your life.
Make a choice to view the bumps and obstacles as just that. They are happening for a reason. What can you learn from them? I believe we invite into our lives what we are ready for, and when things show up, they are there to teach us a lesson we are ready to learn. Give yourself credit for being ready to learn something new every time a challenge comes your way. Without the challenges, you may not be able to move onto the next phase or step in your life. Begin to see that things are perfect just the way they are. Our lives are all unfolding at the perfect time and in the perfect way for each of us. By just changing your perception about this, you can begin to appreciate your life in a more fulfilling way.
Questions:
Either journal about the following questions or spend some time thinking about each of your answers.
- What is going on in your life right now?
- What lesson could it be there to teach you?
- What lessons are you ready to learn?
- How can you change your perception of things showing up in your life?
- How can you begin to see things in a more positive way?
-What do you need to work on the most?
- Why does this seem so hard to do?
- What do you need to give yourself credit for accomplishing?
Fieldwork:
Each time you think something negative about yourself, another person or your circumstances, begin to reshape your thoughts. Find a more positive spin to put on everything that comes your way. Really focus on changing your perception of you and notice how that impacts everything else.
Topic 21 Bonus Challenge:
Think about the way you view others. If you see the negative in others then this is what they give you. Make a choice to change your perception and really work on finding something positive in everyone you see. If it is your boss, the grocery store clerk or the neighbor down the street, bring the positive out in them and allow the positive to come into your life
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Happy 4th of July! Check back next week for a new post. I am taking this week off because my youngest child starts kindergarten next week and this is the only week both of my kids have off until our next track-out. For my perfect balance, I feel I need to spend some time with them this week. What do you need for your perfect balance this week? Enjoy your holiday!
Change how you view the world and yourself one thought at a time. Do you normally dwell on everything going wrong or do you see the things going right in your life? Shift your focus and perception and change the overall impression of your life. Shift from seeing the negative and begin to view things in a more positive light. I know sometimes this is easier said than done, but by first noticing how you view things and by then making small changes, you really can change your life.
Make a choice to view the bumps and obstacles as just that. They are happening for a reason. What can you learn from them? I believe we invite into our lives what we are ready for, and when things show up, they are there to teach us a lesson we are ready to learn. Give yourself credit for being ready to learn something new every time a challenge comes your way. Without the challenges, you may not be able to move onto the next phase or step in your life. Begin to see that things are perfect just the way they are. Our lives are all unfolding at the perfect time and in the perfect way for each of us. By just changing your perception about this, you can begin to appreciate your life in a more fulfilling way.
Questions:
Either journal about the following questions or spend some time thinking about each of your answers.
- What is going on in your life right now?
- What lesson could it be there to teach you?
- What lessons are you ready to learn?
- How can you change your perception of things showing up in your life?
- How can you begin to see things in a more positive way?
-What do you need to work on the most?
- Why does this seem so hard to do?
- What do you need to give yourself credit for accomplishing?
Fieldwork:
Each time you think something negative about yourself, another person or your circumstances, begin to reshape your thoughts. Find a more positive spin to put on everything that comes your way. Really focus on changing your perception of you and notice how that impacts everything else.
Topic 21 Bonus Challenge:
Think about the way you view others. If you see the negative in others then this is what they give you. Make a choice to change your perception and really work on finding something positive in everyone you see. If it is your boss, the grocery store clerk or the neighbor down the street, bring the positive out in them and allow the positive to come into your life
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Monday, June 27, 2011
21-A Perception
So much of how we think about life comes down to our perception. What we perceive to be true and how we interpret this can make an impact on everything that comes our way. If you think about how you see things on a daily basis, you can get a pretty good idea about how you think your life is and how you see yourself. Are you usually optimistic or do you usually react in a negative way? When you meet new people, do you get jealous and think bad thoughts or do you find the good they offer? At work are you competitive and frustrated or happy and a team player. If you answered these questions in a negative way, chances are you feel that way about yourself. If you answered them in a positive way, chances are you like yourself and your life. You make the choice in the life you create.
If you often tell yourself how rough life is then this is what your life becomes. If you tell yourself how wonderful things are then this becomes your life. You have a choice in how you interpret things every time you are faced with any new experience. If the line at the grocery store is extra long, how do you react? Do you get frustrated and say to yourself how life is conspiring against you? Can you change what you tell yourself and make a situation like this not seem so bad. What if you said I am not in a rush and the line is a way to allow me to slow down and take a moment when I normally would not? Can you find the silver lining in your own situations?
I hope you will notice your perceptions this week and begin to make positive changes in the way you see things and in how you react. What we put out there is what we get back. How do you want your life to be?
Fieldwork:
Notice how you view the world, yourself and your life. Overall, are you negative or positive? Are you happy with those views? If not, what needs to happen to change your perception? Begin making small shifts in your thinking to become more positive.
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about your answers.
- How do you perceive the world?
- How do you perceive your own life?
- How do you view the things going on around you?
- How do you view your friends, family and co-workers?
- Is the glass half full or half empty?
- How can you make sure you see things as half full?
- What steps do you need to take to enhance your perceptions?
Quote: Camille Pissarro- Blessed are those who see beautiful things in humble places where other people see nothing.
I hope you are enjoying my blog and I hope it is helping you create a wonderful life for yourself. If you are seeing benefits or have feedback, I would love to hear back from you. If you like what you are reading, pass it along to your friends and join as a follower!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
If you often tell yourself how rough life is then this is what your life becomes. If you tell yourself how wonderful things are then this becomes your life. You have a choice in how you interpret things every time you are faced with any new experience. If the line at the grocery store is extra long, how do you react? Do you get frustrated and say to yourself how life is conspiring against you? Can you change what you tell yourself and make a situation like this not seem so bad. What if you said I am not in a rush and the line is a way to allow me to slow down and take a moment when I normally would not? Can you find the silver lining in your own situations?
I hope you will notice your perceptions this week and begin to make positive changes in the way you see things and in how you react. What we put out there is what we get back. How do you want your life to be?
Fieldwork:
Notice how you view the world, yourself and your life. Overall, are you negative or positive? Are you happy with those views? If not, what needs to happen to change your perception? Begin making small shifts in your thinking to become more positive.
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about your answers.
- How do you perceive the world?
- How do you perceive your own life?
- How do you view the things going on around you?
- How do you view your friends, family and co-workers?
- Is the glass half full or half empty?
- How can you make sure you see things as half full?
- What steps do you need to take to enhance your perceptions?
Quote: Camille Pissarro- Blessed are those who see beautiful things in humble places where other people see nothing.
I hope you are enjoying my blog and I hope it is helping you create a wonderful life for yourself. If you are seeing benefits or have feedback, I would love to hear back from you. If you like what you are reading, pass it along to your friends and join as a follower!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
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