This weeks post will be Finding Your Purpose. Join me Monday to read more!
Can your ego ever be beneficial? There are definitely different thoughts on this. Some think the ego is always negative and that our ego drives us to be selfish so we should avoid it at all costs. Others think we would not accomplish anything without a little pushing from our ego so we should embrace it. I fall somewhere in the middle. I think our egos can be beneficial if we are being true to our unique self and we use our ego to motivate us to accomplish goals that are positive and serve a greater purpose.
You need to decide how much you want your ego present in your life. If you let your ego take over when you react to situations and you want to react from a less egocentric perspective, then work on that. If you feel your ego can benefit and drive you to help others and the world, then work on that. Everyone will have different thoughts on this and I encourage you to evaluate what will work best for you and your life.
By being true to your self and your true purpose and calling, you can use your ego to help create the life you really want to be living. By helping others and living a life that is on purpose, you will see the benefits come back to you. Begin to define your purpose and evaluate everything you want in your life and decide how your ego will play a part in achieving your goals.
Questions:
Does your ego help you or hurt you?
How does it help or hurt you?
Are there times when your ego gets in your way?
Are there times when your ego helps you accomplish beneficial and positive goals?
Can you find a way to balance your ego so it provides benefits but does not rule you in a negative way?
Fieldwork:
Begin to find ways to use your ego in a positive way to help others while staying true to you. Open yourself up to others and you will see the benefits in your own life.
Topic 22 Bonus Challenge:
The next time someone is upset with you, begin to notice why they may be reacting the way they are. Are they reacting based on their need to protect their ego? If so, begin to understand this is what is happening and try to approach the situation in a more understanding way. See if you can help them remove their ego from the situation.
Decide the role you want your ego to play and go for it!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Friday, July 15, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
22-A Leave your ego behind!
Leaving your ego behind is something I have really been working on for myself lately. I hope you will enjoy working on this too. When I am able to leave my ego behind, it really helps me react more truly to a situation. When my ego shows up in my reactions, I tend to over react and my feelings get hurt and I get more upset about things than I need to. When I am able to leave my ego out of a situation, it allows me to realize things are not usually personal and it lets me remove myself a bit from the situation.
We have been conditioned to respond to things based on how our ego feels and sometimes that may not produce the best result. When we come from an ego based response instead of letting our ego go, we may react in a more negative way to things. We have to protect ourselves right?? I know it is hard to leave your ego behind, but when you do, it allows you to be more present and more true to who you are. You can remove your learned responses and defenses and really see the situations more clearly. You can realize you are not your ego and you don't have to protect yourself as much as you thought.
An example of a situation where I know my ego was involved in my responses was when my daughter was playing soccer this spring. I got caught up in wanting her to be the best and when she got off the field, I would tell her ways to improve. Once I realized my reaction was based on my ego and my reaction to what other people thought, I decided to change. I am so much more conscious of telling her the things she does well and I really try to see things through her eyes instead of my own. I am now better at seeing that my daughter is having fun when she plays and she improves each time she is out there, so really, what more can I ask for.
By shifting my focus from myself and how I was feeling to how my daughter was feeling, I was able to remove my ego from my reaction. For both of us, this made for a much better interaction. I hope you will begin to see when you are handling something based on your ego and begin to make small shifts to leave your ego behind!
Questions:
Either think about your responses or take some time to journal about the following questions.
- Does your ego control your responses?
- Do you react in a certain way to protect yourself?
- Does this work for you in a negative or positive way?
- How can you remove your ego from your responses and not take things so personally?
- How would it feel to remove your ego from your reactions?
- How can you realize your ego is not a definition of who and what you truly are?
- How can you be more true to who and what you are?
Fieldwork:
Notice your reactions to different situations. Is your ego involved in your responses? Allow yourself to take a step back and notice that your ego does not have to control you. You can respond to both positive and negative situations without allowing your ego to take over.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
We have been conditioned to respond to things based on how our ego feels and sometimes that may not produce the best result. When we come from an ego based response instead of letting our ego go, we may react in a more negative way to things. We have to protect ourselves right?? I know it is hard to leave your ego behind, but when you do, it allows you to be more present and more true to who you are. You can remove your learned responses and defenses and really see the situations more clearly. You can realize you are not your ego and you don't have to protect yourself as much as you thought.
An example of a situation where I know my ego was involved in my responses was when my daughter was playing soccer this spring. I got caught up in wanting her to be the best and when she got off the field, I would tell her ways to improve. Once I realized my reaction was based on my ego and my reaction to what other people thought, I decided to change. I am so much more conscious of telling her the things she does well and I really try to see things through her eyes instead of my own. I am now better at seeing that my daughter is having fun when she plays and she improves each time she is out there, so really, what more can I ask for.
By shifting my focus from myself and how I was feeling to how my daughter was feeling, I was able to remove my ego from my reaction. For both of us, this made for a much better interaction. I hope you will begin to see when you are handling something based on your ego and begin to make small shifts to leave your ego behind!
Questions:
Either think about your responses or take some time to journal about the following questions.
- Does your ego control your responses?
- Do you react in a certain way to protect yourself?
- Does this work for you in a negative or positive way?
- How can you remove your ego from your responses and not take things so personally?
- How would it feel to remove your ego from your reactions?
- How can you realize your ego is not a definition of who and what you truly are?
- How can you be more true to who and what you are?
Fieldwork:
Notice your reactions to different situations. Is your ego involved in your responses? Allow yourself to take a step back and notice that your ego does not have to control you. You can respond to both positive and negative situations without allowing your ego to take over.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Friday, July 1, 2011
21-B Perception
The upcoming topic will be Leave Your Ego Behind! Join me Monday to see more!
Happy 4th of July! Check back next week for a new post. I am taking this week off because my youngest child starts kindergarten next week and this is the only week both of my kids have off until our next track-out. For my perfect balance, I feel I need to spend some time with them this week. What do you need for your perfect balance this week? Enjoy your holiday!
Change how you view the world and yourself one thought at a time. Do you normally dwell on everything going wrong or do you see the things going right in your life? Shift your focus and perception and change the overall impression of your life. Shift from seeing the negative and begin to view things in a more positive light. I know sometimes this is easier said than done, but by first noticing how you view things and by then making small changes, you really can change your life.
Make a choice to view the bumps and obstacles as just that. They are happening for a reason. What can you learn from them? I believe we invite into our lives what we are ready for, and when things show up, they are there to teach us a lesson we are ready to learn. Give yourself credit for being ready to learn something new every time a challenge comes your way. Without the challenges, you may not be able to move onto the next phase or step in your life. Begin to see that things are perfect just the way they are. Our lives are all unfolding at the perfect time and in the perfect way for each of us. By just changing your perception about this, you can begin to appreciate your life in a more fulfilling way.
Questions:
Either journal about the following questions or spend some time thinking about each of your answers.
- What is going on in your life right now?
- What lesson could it be there to teach you?
- What lessons are you ready to learn?
- How can you change your perception of things showing up in your life?
- How can you begin to see things in a more positive way?
-What do you need to work on the most?
- Why does this seem so hard to do?
- What do you need to give yourself credit for accomplishing?
Fieldwork:
Each time you think something negative about yourself, another person or your circumstances, begin to reshape your thoughts. Find a more positive spin to put on everything that comes your way. Really focus on changing your perception of you and notice how that impacts everything else.
Topic 21 Bonus Challenge:
Think about the way you view others. If you see the negative in others then this is what they give you. Make a choice to change your perception and really work on finding something positive in everyone you see. If it is your boss, the grocery store clerk or the neighbor down the street, bring the positive out in them and allow the positive to come into your life
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Happy 4th of July! Check back next week for a new post. I am taking this week off because my youngest child starts kindergarten next week and this is the only week both of my kids have off until our next track-out. For my perfect balance, I feel I need to spend some time with them this week. What do you need for your perfect balance this week? Enjoy your holiday!
Change how you view the world and yourself one thought at a time. Do you normally dwell on everything going wrong or do you see the things going right in your life? Shift your focus and perception and change the overall impression of your life. Shift from seeing the negative and begin to view things in a more positive light. I know sometimes this is easier said than done, but by first noticing how you view things and by then making small changes, you really can change your life.
Make a choice to view the bumps and obstacles as just that. They are happening for a reason. What can you learn from them? I believe we invite into our lives what we are ready for, and when things show up, they are there to teach us a lesson we are ready to learn. Give yourself credit for being ready to learn something new every time a challenge comes your way. Without the challenges, you may not be able to move onto the next phase or step in your life. Begin to see that things are perfect just the way they are. Our lives are all unfolding at the perfect time and in the perfect way for each of us. By just changing your perception about this, you can begin to appreciate your life in a more fulfilling way.
Questions:
Either journal about the following questions or spend some time thinking about each of your answers.
- What is going on in your life right now?
- What lesson could it be there to teach you?
- What lessons are you ready to learn?
- How can you change your perception of things showing up in your life?
- How can you begin to see things in a more positive way?
-What do you need to work on the most?
- Why does this seem so hard to do?
- What do you need to give yourself credit for accomplishing?
Fieldwork:
Each time you think something negative about yourself, another person or your circumstances, begin to reshape your thoughts. Find a more positive spin to put on everything that comes your way. Really focus on changing your perception of you and notice how that impacts everything else.
Topic 21 Bonus Challenge:
Think about the way you view others. If you see the negative in others then this is what they give you. Make a choice to change your perception and really work on finding something positive in everyone you see. If it is your boss, the grocery store clerk or the neighbor down the street, bring the positive out in them and allow the positive to come into your life
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Monday, June 27, 2011
21-A Perception
So much of how we think about life comes down to our perception. What we perceive to be true and how we interpret this can make an impact on everything that comes our way. If you think about how you see things on a daily basis, you can get a pretty good idea about how you think your life is and how you see yourself. Are you usually optimistic or do you usually react in a negative way? When you meet new people, do you get jealous and think bad thoughts or do you find the good they offer? At work are you competitive and frustrated or happy and a team player. If you answered these questions in a negative way, chances are you feel that way about yourself. If you answered them in a positive way, chances are you like yourself and your life. You make the choice in the life you create.
If you often tell yourself how rough life is then this is what your life becomes. If you tell yourself how wonderful things are then this becomes your life. You have a choice in how you interpret things every time you are faced with any new experience. If the line at the grocery store is extra long, how do you react? Do you get frustrated and say to yourself how life is conspiring against you? Can you change what you tell yourself and make a situation like this not seem so bad. What if you said I am not in a rush and the line is a way to allow me to slow down and take a moment when I normally would not? Can you find the silver lining in your own situations?
I hope you will notice your perceptions this week and begin to make positive changes in the way you see things and in how you react. What we put out there is what we get back. How do you want your life to be?
Fieldwork:
Notice how you view the world, yourself and your life. Overall, are you negative or positive? Are you happy with those views? If not, what needs to happen to change your perception? Begin making small shifts in your thinking to become more positive.
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about your answers.
- How do you perceive the world?
- How do you perceive your own life?
- How do you view the things going on around you?
- How do you view your friends, family and co-workers?
- Is the glass half full or half empty?
- How can you make sure you see things as half full?
- What steps do you need to take to enhance your perceptions?
Quote: Camille Pissarro- Blessed are those who see beautiful things in humble places where other people see nothing.
I hope you are enjoying my blog and I hope it is helping you create a wonderful life for yourself. If you are seeing benefits or have feedback, I would love to hear back from you. If you like what you are reading, pass it along to your friends and join as a follower!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
If you often tell yourself how rough life is then this is what your life becomes. If you tell yourself how wonderful things are then this becomes your life. You have a choice in how you interpret things every time you are faced with any new experience. If the line at the grocery store is extra long, how do you react? Do you get frustrated and say to yourself how life is conspiring against you? Can you change what you tell yourself and make a situation like this not seem so bad. What if you said I am not in a rush and the line is a way to allow me to slow down and take a moment when I normally would not? Can you find the silver lining in your own situations?
I hope you will notice your perceptions this week and begin to make positive changes in the way you see things and in how you react. What we put out there is what we get back. How do you want your life to be?
Fieldwork:
Notice how you view the world, yourself and your life. Overall, are you negative or positive? Are you happy with those views? If not, what needs to happen to change your perception? Begin making small shifts in your thinking to become more positive.
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about your answers.
- How do you perceive the world?
- How do you perceive your own life?
- How do you view the things going on around you?
- How do you view your friends, family and co-workers?
- Is the glass half full or half empty?
- How can you make sure you see things as half full?
- What steps do you need to take to enhance your perceptions?
Quote: Camille Pissarro- Blessed are those who see beautiful things in humble places where other people see nothing.
I hope you are enjoying my blog and I hope it is helping you create a wonderful life for yourself. If you are seeing benefits or have feedback, I would love to hear back from you. If you like what you are reading, pass it along to your friends and join as a follower!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Monday, June 20, 2011
20- Create your Life Plan
The upcoming topic is Perception.
This week I am going to do one post instead of breaking it down into the normal 2 posts. The topic and fieldwork will work better if you have the whole week to work on things at your own pace. This topic piggybacks on last weeks topic- Where are you going? By knowing where you are going, you can begin to set your goals and create the life you want. If we break things down into smaller categories, it may be easier for you to get a clear picture of how you want each part of your life to look.
A life plan is your interpretation of what you want to achieve in all of the different areas of your life. From finances to career to family, I want you to evaluate what your vision is for these different areas and then create the path you will take to accomplish this vision. It is great to go back and revisit this as things change and keep it up to date so you know where you are headed and what you have accomplished.
Categories:
Home
Finances
Physical Health
Job/Career
Mental Health/Character
Love Life
Family/Parenting
Emotional Well-being
Spiritual Life
Overall Life
Any other aspect not included that is important to you
Fieldwork:
- How will it help for you to have a life plan?
- What benefits do you think you will see?
- What are your main goals in life?
- What life will you create for yourself?
- How will it feel when you accomplish your goals and create the life of your dreams?
- How can you enjoy the process while creating this life for yourself?
Bonus Challenge:
Set one goal for each of the categories listed in this weeks blog and accomplish those goals!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
This week I am going to do one post instead of breaking it down into the normal 2 posts. The topic and fieldwork will work better if you have the whole week to work on things at your own pace. This topic piggybacks on last weeks topic- Where are you going? By knowing where you are going, you can begin to set your goals and create the life you want. If we break things down into smaller categories, it may be easier for you to get a clear picture of how you want each part of your life to look.
A life plan is your interpretation of what you want to achieve in all of the different areas of your life. From finances to career to family, I want you to evaluate what your vision is for these different areas and then create the path you will take to accomplish this vision. It is great to go back and revisit this as things change and keep it up to date so you know where you are headed and what you have accomplished.
Categories:
Home
Finances
Physical Health
Job/Career
Mental Health/Character
Love Life
Family/Parenting
Emotional Well-being
Spiritual Life
Overall Life
Any other aspect not included that is important to you
Fieldwork:
- How will it help for you to have a life plan?
- What benefits do you think you will see?
- What are your main goals in life?
- What life will you create for yourself?
- How will it feel when you accomplish your goals and create the life of your dreams?
- How can you enjoy the process while creating this life for yourself?
Bonus Challenge:
Set one goal for each of the categories listed in this weeks blog and accomplish those goals!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Friday, June 17, 2011
19-B Where are you Going?
The topic for next week will be Creating your Life Plan. What do you want from your future?
Hopefully you read the blog from Monday and have decided on a few big goals for your life. It doesn't matter how long it takes you to reach your goals or if you zigzag along your path as long as you are focused on the goal or goals and are working towards that.
Earlier in the week, I was talking about a run on the beach and how it gave me the inspiration for this weeks topic. At the halfway point of my run, there was a shell bed and I really wanted to stop and collect some shells to take home to my kids. At that point, I had to decide which goal was most important and whether stopping progress on one goal was worth it to accomplish a secondary goal. I had to be clear on what was most important for me at that time. I continued my run and found some shells later.
By setting my goal and not letting the obstacles prevent me from accomplishing what I had in mind, I was able to feel good about my progress. Just setting a goal and reaching it without having to work for it could have been a little boring, but by having the streams and shells in the way, it added some excitement. Sometimes the obstacles that show up in our life are there for a reason and if we are able to embrace them, it can allow us to get more out of our goals. By the end of my run, I was taking more chances with my path and it definitely added some excitement to what could have been just another run on the beach.
Questions:
- What goals are most important to you right now?
- What are you willing to put aside if another opportunity shows up for you?
- Why do you think obstacles show up for you sometimes?
- What can you do to embrace any obstacles?
- What will your journey be like if you embrace everything life throws your way?
Fieldwork:
What obstacles have you overcome when working on a goal? How did they show up for you? Think about how the obstacles enhanced your journey and what they offered you.
Bonus Challenge:
Think outside of your normal comfort zone and push yourself to set one goal that will be a big stretch for you. Believe you are going to achieve this and make it happen!
Quote:
Paul Coelho- Man improves himself as he follows his path; if he stands still, waiting to improve before he makes a decision, he will never move.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Hopefully you read the blog from Monday and have decided on a few big goals for your life. It doesn't matter how long it takes you to reach your goals or if you zigzag along your path as long as you are focused on the goal or goals and are working towards that.
Earlier in the week, I was talking about a run on the beach and how it gave me the inspiration for this weeks topic. At the halfway point of my run, there was a shell bed and I really wanted to stop and collect some shells to take home to my kids. At that point, I had to decide which goal was most important and whether stopping progress on one goal was worth it to accomplish a secondary goal. I had to be clear on what was most important for me at that time. I continued my run and found some shells later.
By setting my goal and not letting the obstacles prevent me from accomplishing what I had in mind, I was able to feel good about my progress. Just setting a goal and reaching it without having to work for it could have been a little boring, but by having the streams and shells in the way, it added some excitement. Sometimes the obstacles that show up in our life are there for a reason and if we are able to embrace them, it can allow us to get more out of our goals. By the end of my run, I was taking more chances with my path and it definitely added some excitement to what could have been just another run on the beach.
Questions:
- What goals are most important to you right now?
- What are you willing to put aside if another opportunity shows up for you?
- Why do you think obstacles show up for you sometimes?
- What can you do to embrace any obstacles?
- What will your journey be like if you embrace everything life throws your way?
Fieldwork:
What obstacles have you overcome when working on a goal? How did they show up for you? Think about how the obstacles enhanced your journey and what they offered you.
Bonus Challenge:
Think outside of your normal comfort zone and push yourself to set one goal that will be a big stretch for you. Believe you are going to achieve this and make it happen!
Quote:
Paul Coelho- Man improves himself as he follows his path; if he stands still, waiting to improve before he makes a decision, he will never move.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
Monday, June 13, 2011
19-A Where are you going?
Happy Monday! I hope you are all having a wonderful start to your week.
I was at the beach this past week-end and went for a run on the beach one morning. While I was running, I was thinking about my next blog topic and inspiration hit. It was low tide but there were streams of water coming up the beach towards the dunes and I had to either run around them or jump over them. I began to think about how those obstacles could have waylaid my plans if I did not have an end goal in mind and if I was not willing to change my original course.
These obstacles could have caused me to turn back or get discouraged if I was not set on reaching my goal but I had to be flexible to be able to succeed. If you don't know where you are going, any obstacles can veer you off your path or send you in another direction. You have to have an idea of where you are going if you want to get there one day. You may not have direct insight into the path you will take, but by setting your goals, you can begin to head in the right direction.
If you are just going through life with no idea of what you want in the future, you will have a harder time figuring out the path to take. By setting some clear short and long term goals, you can begin to create the life you want. Just remember to always enjoy the journey while you are trying to reach your goals. The path toward the goal is sometimes as exciting as reaching the goal itself. Where are you going and what path will you take??
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through your answers.
- What do you want from life?
- What are your short term goals?
- What are your long term goals?
- What is your realistic time frame to accomplish each of your goals?
- How will you handle any obstacles that come your way?
- What will help you stay on course until you reach your goals?
- What can you do next to help you begin working towards your goals?
Fieldwork:
Come up with 3 goals for yourself and start your path towards the life you want to create. Determine where you are going and find a way to get there!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
I was at the beach this past week-end and went for a run on the beach one morning. While I was running, I was thinking about my next blog topic and inspiration hit. It was low tide but there were streams of water coming up the beach towards the dunes and I had to either run around them or jump over them. I began to think about how those obstacles could have waylaid my plans if I did not have an end goal in mind and if I was not willing to change my original course.
These obstacles could have caused me to turn back or get discouraged if I was not set on reaching my goal but I had to be flexible to be able to succeed. If you don't know where you are going, any obstacles can veer you off your path or send you in another direction. You have to have an idea of where you are going if you want to get there one day. You may not have direct insight into the path you will take, but by setting your goals, you can begin to head in the right direction.
If you are just going through life with no idea of what you want in the future, you will have a harder time figuring out the path to take. By setting some clear short and long term goals, you can begin to create the life you want. Just remember to always enjoy the journey while you are trying to reach your goals. The path toward the goal is sometimes as exciting as reaching the goal itself. Where are you going and what path will you take??
Questions:
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through your answers.
- What do you want from life?
- What are your short term goals?
- What are your long term goals?
- What is your realistic time frame to accomplish each of your goals?
- How will you handle any obstacles that come your way?
- What will help you stay on course until you reach your goals?
- What can you do next to help you begin working towards your goals?
Fieldwork:
Come up with 3 goals for yourself and start your path towards the life you want to create. Determine where you are going and find a way to get there!
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye
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