When working on forgiveness, it is important to really work on forgiving yourself for all of the things you are holding onto. When your friends or family do things, sometimes you can easily forgive them, but if you did the same exact thing they did, you would have a hard time forgiving yourself. We can all be so hard on our self and so judgemental of our own actions.
We tend to beat ourselves up for all of the "bad" things we do and we allow those feelings of unworthiness, self doubt, self blame and self loathing to begin to form who we think we are. While our choices are a symbol of who we are, they don't define us as a person. We all make mistakes and do things we wish we had not done. The question is how can you begin to forgive yourself for your mistakes?
If you can begin to see the lesson in your actions, you can forgive yourself when think you have made a mistake. If you realize what the lesson is and learn and grow from your mistakes, are they really mistakes? Can you find a way to forgive yourself for all of your "mistakes" and truly learn the lesson they are there to teach?
Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through your answers.
- What do you need to forgive yourself for?
- What lessons do you need to learn from the "mistakes" you have made?
- What is holding you back from forgiving yourself and others?
- What would it feel like to forgive all of the grudges you are holding onto?
- How would it feel inside your heart?
- Is it worth holding onto the things you are holding onto?
- Who is paying the price for not offering forgiveness to yourself and others?
- Are you willing to forgive so you can grow and open up?
Think back to the last time you were upset or angry at yourself for something you have done. Forgive yourself for that action and find the lesson in it. Find a way to move past what you are holding onto. You are a wonderful person so treat yourself that way!
Enjoy the journey!