Friday, February 18, 2011

3B This Week's topic is Practice Self-Care!

The next topic will be Abundance.  Check back Monday for the latest post!!

Self-Care 3-B

Hopefully at the beginning of the week, you were able to take some time to practice self-care.  Today, we will look at how taking care of yourself makes you feel.  Look back to topic 3A to see more or start at topic 1A and work your way here. 
Remember in this process to be true to you and move along at your own pace.  If a topic hits home, spend more time there or if you have mastered a topic already, create a challenge for yourself or give yourself a break.  You are in charge of your life and what you get from it so use the blog a resource, but always be true to your needs.

For some of you, practicing self-care may have been very hard.  I know there are many people out there that give to others and only think of themselves if there is something leftover.  I hope you were able to do a little something just for you this week so you can explore the different feelings this brings about.

As step 2 of practicing self-care, I want you to notice your feelings when you take care of you.  By starting to look at  yourself and your needs, and by beginning to take care of yourself, you can change your whole approach to life.  Each time you do something for yourself this week, notice how you feel during and afterwards.  Are you smiling?  Are you happier?  Is there a change from the way you normally behave? 

Last week we went on vacation and I did not want to have any delays in my blog posting schedule.  Well,  needless to say, things happened that changed those plans.  My plan was to do my Thursday blog posting during our layover in the airport but we had a major delay and ended up running through the airport to catch our next flight.  So, I did not get a chance to work on my blog.  Then, yesterday, I had other things to do during the day but I knew I still needed to get my blog posted.  Finally, last night, I was going to sit down to do my blog, but I checked in with myself and knew that if I postponed the blog by one day and took the evening to relax, I would be much better off.  I had been going and going and I could keep that up and feel stressed, or I could take some time for me and have a much better evening and morning!  By checking in to see how I was feeling, I was able to make choices that kept me happy, which in turn made my interactions with others better too.

Questions- Spend some time thinking about the answers or journal about your thoughts!
What did you do this week to practice self-care?
How do you feel when you spend time doing something that gives you joy? 
How does this change your perspective? 
How do you approach others? 
How do you approach life?
What is your perfect balance of taking care of you and keeping your tank full vs. taking care of others?
What does it feel like to come from a place of happy/full vs. rundown/empty?
What can you do for yourself to make sure you are taking care of you and  your needs?
What will you do tomorrow to put a smile on your face?

Fieldwork 3B-Each time you do something for yourself, acknowledge how it makes you feel. How does it feel while you are doing it, how does it feel after you do it and how does it impact your feelings for the rest of the day? What does it feel like to have a full tank vs. an empty tank?? Do you see any benefits to practicing self-care? If so, what are the benefits?

Bonus Challenge topic 3-
One of the major reasons for practicing self-care is to improve your overall life. By taking care of you, you will enhance your interaction with others! This week explore others reactions when you are coming from a place where you are taken care of and happy vs. running on empty. Do they react differently, is your interaction better, what benefits do you see in your approach to others when you take care of yourself? Recognize your impact on others! How can you be your best?

I would love to hear your feedback!  If you have any questions or comments, email me a

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Quote of the week: Eda LeShan= When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly for other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be toward others.

Monday, February 14, 2011

3A This Week's topic is Practice Self-Care!

Practice Self-Care 3-B will be coming on Friday this week.  I have been traveling and am going to take the night off from making blog updates!!  I hope you will check back tomorrow!

Thanks for understanding!

Practice Self-Care 3-A

Last week we worked on Balance and started to define what your perfect balance would look like.  Hopefully you were able to make some shifts so you are more aligned with your ideal balance.  This week, we will explore how taking care of yourself can be beneficial to you and to the ones you love.  If you are practicing self-care for the first time, it may feel like you are being a little selfish, but once you begin see the benefits, I hope you will realize it is actually healthy.  Practicing self-care goes hand in hand with our last two topics; Happiness is a Choice and Balance.

By taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to help others around you.  If you come from a healthy and happy mindset, everyone will see  the benefits, not just you.  Think about your friends, your spouse or your children.  If you don't take care of yourself and you are unhappy, how do you think this affects them?  Now, think about how it affects them if you take care of yourself and are happy?  You have more to give when you are happy and if you have children, what better gift could you give them than having them be raised by someone who loves their life?? 

Here are 2 quick examples.  On the airplane, they tell you to put your mask on before you help others.  If you do not take care of yourself first, you are unable to help anyone else.  Also, think about you car, if the gas tank is empty, you can not go anywhere.  The same is true for you.  If you are running on empty and don't fill yourself up, you have nothing to give.  So, can you see how it is beneficial to take a little time for you to make sure your gas tank is full or you have your mask on before you help others?

Don't put yourself last and everyone else first.  Be healthy and take care of yourself so you have more to give others!

Either journal about the questions or take some time to think about them.

- What do you do for yourself each day?
- If you could choose anything to do for yourself, what would it be?
- How would it make you feel to take care of yourself?
- What is holding you back?
- Can you overcome those obstacles?
- What will you do for yourself tomorrow?

Fieldwork 3A-Explore how you spend your time. Do you put everyone else first or do you take time for yourself? Your fieldwork is to take a little bit of time every day this week to do something for yourself. It can be big or small, you decide.

Enjoy your journey!
Coach Gaye