Friday, February 3, 2012

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My blog format has changed to a free ezine that is emailed to your inbox!  Sign up at to get the weekly topic, questions and fieldwork!  You can also see my new blog that is now linked to my webpage!  I hope you enjoy the new format!

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Thanks for reading and as always, enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Monday, October 10, 2011

Sign up for ezine- blog format changing!

Hi everyone,

I am in the process of moving my blog over to my new webpage.  This process should be complete by the end of the month.  In order to make it easier to get my blog posts, I am changing them into an ezine that you can sign up for and have delivered into your inbox once a week.  If would still like to see the weekly topics along with the fieldwork and questions, the only way to get them will be through the ezine- so sign up now! 

Send me an email to and I will add your email to the ezine list.  Put ezine request in the subject line.  I am doing this to simplify the process and make it easier for all of you.  I hope you will enjoy my new format!  The first ezine will be sent the first week of November, so don't forget to sign up now so you don't miss a topic! 

Once my new website is up and running, there will also be a sign-up section there!  I will send out a blog post as a reminder!

Enjoy the journey!!
Coach Gaye

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Friday, October 7, 2011

33-B Forgiveness

When working on forgiveness, it is important to really work on forgiving yourself for all of the things you are holding onto.  When your friends or family do things, sometimes you can easily forgive them, but if you did the same exact thing they did, you would have a hard time forgiving yourself.  We can all be so hard on our self and so judgemental of our own actions.

We tend to beat ourselves up for all of the "bad" things we do and we allow those feelings of unworthiness, self doubt, self blame and self loathing to begin to form who we think we are.  While our choices are a symbol of who we are, they don't define us as a person.  We all make mistakes and do things we wish we had not done.  The question is how can you begin to forgive yourself for your mistakes?

If you can begin to see the lesson in your actions, you can forgive yourself when think you have made a mistake.  If you realize what the lesson is and learn and grow from your mistakes, are they really mistakes?  Can you find a way to forgive yourself for all of your "mistakes" and truly learn the lesson they are there to teach?

Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through your answers.
- What do you need to forgive yourself for?
- What lessons do you need to learn from the "mistakes"  you have made?
- What is holding you back from forgiving yourself and others?
- What would it feel like to forgive all of the grudges you are holding onto?
- How would it feel inside your heart?
- Is it worth holding onto the things you are holding onto?
- Who is paying the price for not offering forgiveness to yourself and others?
- Are you willing to forgive so you can grow and open up?

Think back to the last time you were upset or angry at yourself for something you have done.  Forgive yourself for that action and find the lesson in it.  Find a way to move past what you are holding onto.  You are a wonderful person so treat yourself that way!

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye  

Monday, October 3, 2011

33-A Forgiveness

This weeks topic is forgiveness.  Forgiving others as well as yourself!  It can be hard to forgive others when they have done something that hurts or upset you, but when you hold on to things, you are the one that suffers.

Your ego is here to protect you and when someone does something to hurt you, your ego jumps in and says, that person did something wrong so I am going to be angry at them.  If you look at what is really happening and if you can realize your ego is making you upset to protect you, you can begin to judge your reaction with less emotion.  When you were a child, your ego really did need to protect you, but now that you are an adult, you really don't need all of that protection.  If you become conscious about what your ego is protecting you from, you can work on the issues you may have that are limiting you and your growth.

From my childhood, I held onto the message that I was unworthy.  By understanding that my childhood feelings of unworthiness cause my reaction to situations as an adult, I can make changes to how I react now.  Everytime a person or situation makes me feel unworthy, my ego jumps in and tries to protect me.  I don't need this protection anymore.  I can forgive myself and others when I feel this way.  When I look at my childhood through adult eyes, I can understand that no one purposely tried to make me feel unworthy so it is important for me to forgive my past as well.  Understanding and forgiving my past and changing my reaction in the present is what will allow me to grow and move on.

The first step to forgive others is realize what in you is making you so angry or upset.  Once you realize what the situation is bringing up in you, you can forgive others when they make you feel this way.  Most people are not trying to attack you personally or consciously.  After you have forgiven others,  you also need to go back inside and forgive yourself.  Appreciate what your ego is trying to protect you from and acknowledge that you don't need that protection anymore.  By forgiving others, yourself and your ego, you can truly be free.

Either journal about these questions or spend a few minutes thinking about each of your answers.
- What do you need to forgive others for?
- What do you need to forgive yourself for?
- What is your ego trying to protect you from?
- What behavior in others makes you angry?
- Why does this behavior make you angry or upset?
- What does their behavior bring up inside of you?
- What feeling as a child is your ego protecting your from?
- How can you acknowledge that you don't need protection from this anymore?
- How can you forgive and move on so you are ready to grow?
- What would it feel like to forgive and let go of all of the negative emotions surrounding you?

Are you holding onto something that you need to forgive someone for?  Work through why you are so angry and find a way to forgive them, you and your ego.  Find peace and understanding about the situation.

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Saturday, October 1, 2011

32-B Listen to your Heart

If you listen to your heart, it will tell you your purpose.  You have all of the answers inside of you and if you direct your questions through your heart, you will get the right answers every time.  Your heart knows exactly what you need, what you have to offer others and what your soul's purpose is.

When you put the focus off of yourself and your ego and begin to look at what you have to offer others and what speaks to you in your heart, you will find your mission and purpose in life.  By staying true to you, you can create an amazing life.  What could be better than knowing your true purpose and sharing it with the world?

If you shift focus from what can you do to make money and you begin to listen to your heart and see what you can do for others, your message will become clear.  I know it can be scary to trust that God, the Universe or any other higher power you may believe in, knows exactly what  you need, but when you connect to your source through your heart, you can't go wrong.  As soon as you look through your heart and find the light that you are meant to shine, you will be amazed how your path becomes clear.  You just have to be ready and open to take your next steps through your heart.

Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking about your answers.
- Are you ready to open up and listen to your heart?
- When do you listen to your heart now?
- What does your heart tell you?
- What is your true purpose?
- Can you trust that if you connect through your heart, your message will become clear?
- If you have some hesitation, what would it take for you to trust completely?

Focus on others through your heart and see what you have to offer them.  What do you have in your heart to share and give to others?  This week, take time to offer others what you have inside of you.

Quote: Unknown-Follow your heart but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions, then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart.

Topic 32 Bonus Challenge:
Find a physical act to do to help you when you are trying to listen to your heart. When you listen to your heart, it really helps to attach a physical act to the emotional act. I like to touch my heart when I know I need to listen better and it really helps me focus. If I am coming from a place of ego, I can touch my heart and it will help lead the way straight to my heart.
Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Monday, September 26, 2011

Listen to you Heart!

Last week we talked about looking inside when things get tough or when we feel stuck.  Another way to help when you are stuck is to listen to your heart.  If you approach things from your heart and through your heart, you will notice a huge difference in how you handle everything around you.

I have been working on this lately and have noticed huge shifts in my coaching and in my everyday life.  I can feel the difference when I approach things through my heart instead of letting my ego take over.  When I am able to go through my heart and present myself to the world that way, I know I am on the right path and the path for my future opens up right before me.  It aligns me with the universe and connects me to everyone around me and I want that for each of you.  It is amazing the difference you can create in your life by making this one change!

By shifting your focus from just reacting to the external things going on around you to approaching each situation through your heart, you will bring compassion and love to each situation and that is exactly what life will present to you.  Remember, what you put out there is what you get back.  If you are able to make a conscious effort to listen to your heart and work through your heart, you can absolutely affect the type of life you lead.

Either journal about these questions or spend some time thinking through your answers.
- Do you come through your heart when  you approach most situations?
- Is there a way for you to be more conscious of what your heart is saying to you?
- If you listen to your heart, what is it telling you?
- How would it feel to come from a place of love, compassion and understanding?
- Can you notice a difference when you come from your heart and when you don't?
- Which place feels better to you?
- Where do you choose to live your life?

Spend a few quiet moments with your heart.  Ask if there is anything it needs you to know and listen to what your heart opens up for you.  Begin to make this a practice you do on a regular basis.  Open your heart and notice the changes it makes in your life.

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Friday, September 23, 2011

31-B When you get stuck work on You!

The upcoming weeks topic is Listen to your Heart!  Join me tomorrow to read more and get the fieldwork and questions!

When you are at a place in your life and you don't know what the next step is, do something to grow and learn just for you.  If you turn the search inside instead of outside, your path will become clear.  What do you need in your life right now?  Only you know!

All of the answers are inside you.  You just have to look inside and be willing to trust that you are following the best path for you.  Things are unfolding at a perfect rate and your path is perfect for the growth you are ready for right now.  Be open to the questions and the challenges that show up for you along the way and you will get the answers.  You may not be able to see the whole path so focus on the next step- one step at a time will get you there! 
When you turn inside and you ask for what you need and are open for the answers, the universe will provide.  Sometimes your lesson may come in the way of something hard that you must work through, and sometimes the answer may be something simple and enjoyable, but the growth and learning is wrapped up in there somewhere.  Look inside and see what work you need to do on you and your path will become clear.  When you get stuck and look inside, you show the universe that you are ready for the next step.  Show the universe you are ready now!

Either journal about the following questions or spend some time working through the answers.
- Are you stuck right now?
- When you look inside, what do you see?
- What do you need in your life right now?
- What do you think your next step is and are you open to receiving the message?
- Are you ready to grow and learn and take the next step on your path?
- What step are you ready to take today?

Turn your search inside and see what you need in your life right now.  Do something this week to work on you!  Be open for the growth you are ready for!

Bonus Challenge:
Sign up for a class, read a book or learn that new skill you know you are ready for.  Don't wait any longer to work on you!

Quote: Bruce Jenner- If you want to take your mission in life to the next level, if you're stuck and you don't know how to rise, don't look outside yourself. Look inside.

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye